I’ve cost myself some money in the pastPosted: July 4, 2012
As I’ve said before, I’m a fairly private person, a slight workaholic and I lack some social graces. What does that mean? I suck at schmoozing people in higher up positions at work but prove myself with my work ethic/results. In the past, this has led me to low wages and missed opprotunities. And yes, I was grateful to make any kind of wage but it was fairly low in comparison to the work I was putting into it.
In college, I was my manager’s right hand person. He lived over 3 hours away and I worked at this little connivance store full time—which actually was more along the lines of 60ish hours a week in the summer and about 50 during school time. And I never claimed more than 40 hours for the most part. I’d stock up on hours so I could take small vacations when I was burnt out from working and school or needed to spend more time at school (I had a second job which was why I could get burnt out). He ended up being replaced by someone closer and I knew more than the new guy. We ended up not seeing eye to eye as he couldn’t stand the fact that I knew what I was doing and wouldn’t ask dumb questions just to make him feel better. I never said anything to him or about him but co-workers were letting me know what was being said behind my back. But I wanted the money so I stuck with it until a medical issue came up (long story) and I quietly left the job and went on to better places.
How did I cost myself some money here? I was barely making full-time hours (he scheduled me 32 every week which was the bare minimum he needed to keep me at full-time status by their rules and he had no reason not to schedule me for the full time status) and if I could have just asked the questions or made him feel like he was SUPER DUPER AWESOME, I would have kept my 40+ hours. ( I won’t lie—the fact that they had to hire 3 people to replace me made me feel a little a super duper wesome)
Same job. Before the jerk manager took over, my manager tried to get the company to at least make me assistant manager if not the actual manager. I opened, I closed, and I ran midday shifts, knew how to do all the paperwork and was called at all hours for any questions BEFORE the actual manager because I lived 10 minutes away. Why didn’t they pick me? Because I didn’t do small talk well and after a month of deliberation, they said that I didn’t work enough hours to justify the move in pay. Really? Why did small talk even matter? I put in the hours and had been known to be a little late to some classes in order to take care of work. I pretty much lived there. But according to the higher-ups, that wasn’t enough. I was told a few months later that if I would have schmoozed them at that point in time, I could have persuaded them that I was the girl for the job. Instead, I just continued doing what I was doing for a few months more until the jerk manager came into being.
Previous company I worked for before this current one. I worked my butt off for $7.25 an hour in order to get noticed and brought up to a supervisor, where I made $7.50 an hour. After making supervisor, I continued to work my butt off and made team lead. I continued to make $7.50 an hour—doing more work than people who made a dollar or two more than I did. Did I see something wrong with this? Yes, but I wanted to show the bosses that I could make that extra money and be so useful. Instead, I made myself so useful at a lower cost. I didn’t talk to my bosses—I felt so sure that they would take notice of my hard work and give me money. Too late, I remembered that these people don’t give out raises unless you want to bug them for about 6 months. I know this because my fiancé (than boyfriend) had the same issue. Eventually I moved onto my current job–just after they offered to bump me up to $7.75. No thanks.
So there are three examples of how I ‘cost’ myself money. I’m okay with the fact that I slightly tend to overwork and I’m also okay with showing what a good employee I am through my work. But I also know that I need to speak up for myself and make sure that I can bend when needed. And I’m working on that! More on this tomorrow 😉