Howto Deal With Rich PeoplePosted: June 7, 2012
**And it’s day 4 of work travel! It wouldn’t be so bad if I didn’t get to do very limited blog stuff…anyways! Erika is going to be my guest poster today! Make sure to click on over there after you read her post.**
Hello Bog of Debt readers! My name is Erika, and I run the blog From Shopping to Saving where I talk about personal finance from the perspective of a 24-year-old former shopaholic. We get deep over there and talk about saving, shopping (or lack thereof), self-improvement, and more. Click at your own risk!
Today I want to talk about those friends we all have – the rich ones. Having grown up in private school my whole life up until college, I’ve seen firsthand how some kids are sheltered from reality because they are simply dependent on their parents for money.
Kids need values and ideals to follow, and if you are showering them with money and presents all the time, they won’t be learning anything but how to spend money…oh and how to be a show-off!
I always heard a bunch of this:
“Look at my new video game!”
“Look at my new light up shoes!”
“Everyone should come to my house because it’s the biggest”
“I’m having the biggest 16th birthday party ever, with a DJ!”
“I have a new Mercedes!”
The problem with having rich friends was the constant need to feel included or to“stay ahead.” This resulted in a lot of begging my mom for things I did not need. Had I not known about those new Adidas shoes, I wouldn’t have wanted them. Ignorance is bliss.
Being around these wealthy kids also fostered a very competitive environment. We weren’t just competing on the grounds of “who has the most stuff,” but as we grew up, it turned into other things such as who has the best boyfriend, best job, best college education.
Let’s face it, there’s really no way to find out who has the “best” in any of these categories, because one person’s idea of the best is not everyone else’s. It’s all trivial.
On the other hand, it was nice to be around these kids because they came from wealthy-ish families, and I was able to discover different ways of becoming successful. This instilled a fire of motivation to do well in life to achieve this same success.
As we grew up, there were times when we realized that sometimes our idea of “rich”was not what we thought it was. Parents get divorced, people get laid off andlose jobs, or family emergencies happen.
You can’t guarantee that your friends will always be “rich,” so how should we deal with rich people? We should focus on ourselves, because the only thing that we have the power to change is what we can control – and we can’t control others!
Do you have any rich friends in your life? Have you been affected by them? How do you deal with it?
Editors note: I’ve grown past that point but I remember when I was a kid that I had some of those rich friends. I remember going to one friend’s house because they had a pool and that’s all that they wanted to do in the summer. The one time she was supposed to sleep over at my house, there was an “emergency” and she was going to be out of town. But I saw her at her pool the next day!